On being alone

29 May

Just to clarify the “alone” I am referring to is not “lonely”.

The “alone” I am referring to is the intentional act of keeping away from other people (or keeping other people away from you). This may sound like a horror-show to the people who shine in social situations. This post is not for them.

This post is for those people who sometimes feel awkward/stressed/nervous around other (not all, but most) people and need their alone time. 

I am one of those people. 

I don’t know about you but sometimes I just want to be alone, alone watching TV, watching a movie, reading, just alone for the sake of being not around people. 

Many people feel this way, those same people disregard “wanting to be alone” as “lonely” which is totally WRONG.

Lonely is when you want company, alone is when you want no company. See the difference? 

In other words: when you have a friend or family member who is purposely trying to keep away… Just let them be. They want to be alone, to think, write, read, watch TV. 

You’ll know they want to be alone when they give you one-word answers or when they just get angry for no apparent reason. Just give it time. If they want to talk, they’ll talk. Sometimes it is a sign that something is wrong, but a lot of the time that is not the case.

Also sometimes wanting to be alone means “do not enter the space I am in” and “do not talk to me”, you’ll know this is the case with a look, tone of voice, body language or the obvious “please I want to be alone” verbal response. 

What I have said may sound obvious like “duh of course, I’m not an idiot!” But at the same time a little thought needs to be gone through before you invade someone’s “alone-ness”.

– T 

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